I was pretty excited tonight when my husband told me that Joe Empey would be speaking to the youth tonight at the church.  Joe was one of the missionary’s in the Brussels Terrorist bombing that happened last year.  I haven’t heard his story from him yet, so was excited to go.  He only had maybe 10 min, but there was something that happened that made a huge impact on me.

Joe was telling about what happened just after the bomb went off:  being unconscious, waking up, realizing what was going and somehow being aware of exactly what it was, finding his companion, looking for others, then the pain setting in.  As he approached his companion and asked if he was okay, he asked where the sister was and if she was ok.  His companion said, “she’s burned like you.”  Joe said he then looked down at his hands and realized he was burned.  “I still have the burns and scars here on my hand,” he said, holding it up.

As “the oil lady,” my first thought was, “I need to get him some oils to help that scaring.”  And then I heard it.  “He’s going to want this scar.  I still have mine.”  My heart began to swell.  Joe will treasure this scar.  Not because he’s a boy who thinks scars are cool and a sign of manhood like my boys do.  But this one is different.  This one tells a story.  This one has deep meaning.  This one is about a miracle of a life being saved– physically and spiritually.  This one tells about how many others were “saved,” too.

Joe went on to say that in the hospital after the accident, he questioned why missionaries who were spreading love and teaching of Christ would have this happen to them.  And his answer came through a scripture he read while in the hospital.  John 16:32-33

32 Behold, the hour cometh, yea, is now come, that ye shall be scattered, every man to his own, and shall leave me alone: and yet I am not alone, because the Father is with me.

 33 These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world.

 For a young man thousands of miles from home.  No family there.  In the middle of a terrorist attack, it’s no wonder that he saw the tribulation of the world, but was given powerful comfort from the Savior. So many people have been touched by this story.  Probably more missionary work from this one event than he ever anticipated.

But my mind came back to the scars.  As women we are often trying to hide the scars, the wrinkles, the battlewounds from life.  I thought of all the healing I’ve been trying to do to be whole again.  I thought of how many times I’ve asked to touch the robe or to jump in a pool of Bethesda.  I KNOW Christ and my Heavenly Father can heal EVERYTHING and make it all perfect.  So why am I not healed?

And yet Christ, who could raise from the dead, still has scars.  He could get rid of them.  He IS whole and perfect.  But He still has scars. And to those whom He has appeared, they’ve seen them with their eyes, touched them with their hands, and bathed them with their tears.  I picture this over and over in my head all the time.  That glorious day when I meet Him.  I’ll see the scars!

And I’ll know the story they tell.  The price they paid.  The pain.  The struggle.  The battle.  Wanting the cup removed. The miracle.  People saved.  God’s love felt.

Joe, those hands gave me a glimpse of God’s love tonight.  Those beautiful scarred hands– yours and His– that tell a wonderful, powerful story.  It made me long for that day.  And, He also let me know that the struggles we are going through that give us scars remind us of a great battle won, a victory gained, experience given, wisdom learned, and pure love felt.  Those scars change us.  And even though we’d like to look perfect or be whole, that little bit serves as a reminder of God’s perfect love for us and how it changed us.

“…In ME ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world.”  

And His hands remind me that indeed He has overcome the world.  Those scars let me know He has.

Thank you, Joe. for allowing me to take a picture of your hands to always remind me that scars are a beautiful reminder that we are not alone!


Which Part Are You Aiming For?

Several years ago I had a powerful experience that changed my thought directive and gave me hope for the tough times ahead. (read that full story HERE).  I’ll give you the shortened version here to set the stage.  It was 2008, the economy had crashed, things were not looking great and several of our friends in the construction world were losing their business.  Things were tough and scary.  I happened to attend a Women’s Conference this one particular evening and while singing the song, “Now Let Us Rejoice,” these words popped out to my wandering mind.  “… to guide through these last days of trouble and gloom.”  It was like a brick was dropped on my head as I realized that was TODAY!  But I needed the answer of what would guide me.  As my thoughts began to process, I found the answer in “..In faith we’ll rely on the arm of Jehovah….”  I had been having deep concerns of how I was ever going to make it through the “last days.”  There was so much negativity and fear.  But a voice seemed to ask me a question…. “what are you focusing on?”

I stopped and thought about that.  What was I spending my time thinking about and focusing on?  It was mostly fear and scarcity and those signs of the times that talk about destruction, hearts failing, calamaties, and nothing that sounded good, fun or peaceful.  Into my head popped a law I had been studying called, “the law of polarity or opposition.”  It states that everything has an EQUAL and an EXACT opposite.    If something is really really bad, then by law, there is something really really good.  Both are present, but what you focus on creates the outcome you are feeling and living.  I had been living in fear and scarcity and new I needed to change my focus.  But to what??  If things were so bad in the world, what was good?  I thought that the “the signs of the times” often came with fear, but what was the good part in that?  And then it hit me like a bolt of lightening…..


And then the voice said again, “what are you focusing on?”  I realized in that moment that if I focused on the negative and fearful stuff, I would miss out on the good part.  Faith cannot be present with fear. But when I thought of Christ and His coming and me kneeling at His feet or being embraced in His loving arms, all the fears just melted away and pure peace and joy replaced it.

“BE PART OF THE GOOD PART!”  I was told.  I kept repeating it, “Be part of the good part.”  We know in the end that good triumphs, but what you focus on is what you get, so keep your sights set on being part of the good part.  Focus on Christ.  Think of Him.  Pray to Him.  Read about Him.  Act like Him.  Allow Him in.  Remember Him.

Since that day I have always tried to focus on not just being IN the good part, but to BE the good part.  Be kind.  Be Christlike.  Be patient.  Be longsuffering.  Be tolerant.  Be grateful. Be by His side.

I’ve worked really hard to do this, especially on social media.  I have friends of all colors, nationalities and religions.  They are left, right, liberal, conservative, gay, straight, Christian, Muslim, Jewish and agnostic.  They live all over the world.  And I love and cherish each friendship and individual.  While I don’t always agree with some things they post or believe, I always try to find common ground.  I always try to find the GOOD PART.

Now it’s over eight years later and as I sat reading post after post about the “Women’s March” and the comments going back and forth, my heart has been heavy.  There was months of negativity all through the election.    And now there has been more days of bashing and negativity with President Trump’s innauguration.  It’s hard to find truth.  You don’t know who to trust because honesty is scarce in the media and in the world.  You try to understand other perspectives, but sometimes are just dumbfounded over what little common sense some arguments make.  Yet I sit on facebook trying to be kind.  Trying to be understanding.  Trying to be patient.  Trying to be tolerant.  These are my friends and people I care about.  But I see a sifting taking place.  Lines are being drawn.  There is division.  I don’t like it.  I’m a butterflies and rainbows girl that wants everyone to be happy.  But in my mind I hear, “wheat and tares.”

This. is. hard.  This Last Days stuff isn’t a bed of roses.  My heart is heavy.  And as I sit and wonder, “how am I going to make it in these last days?”  I hear a voice, “What are you focusing on?”  I’m taken back.  Literally.  In time to eight years ago when I asked the same question.  My husband by some off chance tells me to read an article called, “What are you Aiming for?” by Dieter F Uchtdorf (read it HERE).

In the article, President Uchtdorf talks about the goal of an archer is to hit the center.  We don’t shoot an arrow, then run and make a bullseye around that.  We look at the target, focus on the goal, and aim for the center.  We choose the good part.  BAM!  Literally, I was “shot through the heart.” (you’re singing that 80’s song now aren’t you?)  And here I sit, with the answers flowing back.  Focus on Christ.  He is at the Center.  He is the one to focus on and aim for.  HE is the source of peace and joy.  HE is the one coming.  HE will guide us and direct us through the misty darkness of untruth and deception.  He IS the good part.

What part are you aiming for?

Now Let Us Rejoice??? In the Last Days?

One day I was pondering on life and living in the last days. I was discouraged and feeling fearful and stressed. There were so many negative things going on in the world—calamity, loss of income with the economy, bad things coming at my kids like pornography and negativity. I was just feeling a lot of despair and wondering how in the world I was ever going to raise my kids and help them remain strong spiritually. I didn’t know if I had the stamina to be a “Saturday’s Warrior” and survive these last days before Christ’s coming.

The thought came to me, “There is an equal amount of good and bad in this situation.” It caught me off guard. If the law is that everything is equal, then for all the bad going on in the world and for all those dismal “signs of the times,” by law, there has to be an equal amount of good. I needed to find and focus on that good part. I wanted to be part of the good part. A peace washed over me. There are temples being built, people accepting the gospel, good people I live around, good books to read, good music to listen to, the many religious people living their religion the best they know how. Yes, there is plenty of good in the world! Evil is prevalent, but as we seek, we will find the good, and sometimes it really isn’t that far. As I travel around the world, I have always found good people. Most people want the same things I do—love, family, a home, peace, joy. There is much out there that is good.

Shortly after this understanding, I had this powerful experience at general Relief Society meeting in September 2008.

We were standing and singing the rest hymn, “Now Let Us Rejoice” (Hymns, no. 3), when the words jumped out at me and said, “Here is the answer to living through these last days.” We sang:

  1. Now let us rejoice in the day of salvation.
    No longer as strangers on earth need we roam.
    Good tidings are sounding to us and each nation,
    And shortly the hour of redemption will come,
    When all that was promised the Saints will be given,
    And none will molest them from morn until ev’n,
    And earth will appear as the Garden of Eden,
    And Jesus will say to all Israel, “Come home.”
  2. We’ll love one another and never dissemble
    But cease to do evil and ever be one.
    And when the ungodly are fearing and tremble,
    We’ll watch for the day when the Savior will come,
    When all that was promised the Saints will be given,
    And none will molest them from morn until ev’n,
    And earth will appear as the Garden of Eden,
    And Jesus will say to all Israel, “Come home.”
  3. In faith we’ll rely on the arm of Jehovah
    To guide thru these last days of trouble and gloom,
    And after the scourges and harvest are over,
    We’ll rise with the just when the Savior doth come.
    Then all that was promised the Saints will be given,
    And they will be crown’d with the angels of heav’n,
    And earth will appear as the Garden of Eden,
    And Christ and his people will ever be one.


The words, “To guide through these last days of trouble and gloom” hit me like a brick dropped on my head. I thought, “That’s today!” Considering our economy and the world at that time, I realized that these are the last days—the days of trouble and gloom. You can feel gloom everywhere.

I searched my mind for, “What? What will guide through these last days of trouble and gloom?”  I had to go back through the words in my head…“In faith, we’ll rely on the arm of Jehovah!” That was it! All of a sudden, the thoughts I had had about the law of polarity and finding the good came into my mind. Relying on the arm of Jehovah was an equal amount of good contrasted with the gloom of the last days. What was I focusing on?

I continued on with the last verse of the song:

  1. And after the scourges and harvest are over,
    We’ll rise with the just when the Savior doth come.
    Then all that was promised the Saints will be given,
    And they will be crown’d with the angels of heav’n,
    And earth will appear as the Garden of Eden,
    And Christ and his people will ever be one.

Are not the hurricanes, the wars, then pornography, the trafficking, the disease, and troubles of the world the scourges being spoke of? Here is where the epiphany came—when this is all over, we’ll rise with the just (the good people) when the Savior comes and all the blessings and promises we have read about—the joy of His coming and the cleansing—will be given to us. Not only that—we will be crowned with the angels. To be crowned by definition is a distinction that comes from a great achievement.  It is to be given regal dignity and power, to honor or reward, to be at the top or highest part, to complete worthily and bring to a successful or triumphant conclusion.  Crowned with the angels!  Is that a great dream or what?

The earth will appear as the Garden of Eden—the beauty in that thought. And Christ and His people being one—one in joy, thought, purpose, and action. Now there is a goal worth shooting for. Suddenly I realized that that is the dream. In the stickman concept, you can only change your misery with a dream. Is there any greater dream than being with the Savior? I could hear a voice that said, “Keep your thoughts on this dream and goal and you will make it through the tough times!” It was the answer to not just survival, but coming off conqueror in the last days.

At this point, my mind was pinging around like a ball in a pinball machine trying to find the answer. Then all of a sudden, I had it! “Christ is coming!” If the last days equal doom and gloom, the equal opposite, the good part, is that Christ is coming! That is who and what you are to focus on!” It seemed like a shaft of light was coming straight from Heaven through the church to me. I was in tears. It was so powerful! It changed my whole perspective on the last days. While I need to be aware of the signs of the times so I can watch and prepare, the thing I am to focus on is the coming of Christ and to rejoice because it is the day of salvation! How joyful is that? I could picture Christ coming and me kneeling at His feet. Peace and joy washed over me in great abundance.

We women were singing this song so robustly. Our singing was cheerful, upbeat, and joyful. Then it occurred to me—“Now, let us rejoice!” Yes! That’s it! Rejoice in these last days. Rejoice in what is coming for it will bring the Savior in our midst. Rejoice at the thoughts of seeing Him! And not only that—sing it! Sing and rejoice! And do it now…not later when you think everything will be perfect.

The next day was Sunday and I was curious to see what had hit me so hard. I wondered if there was a tidbit more to this message, so I pulled out a songbook to see what I had missed before I got to the “last days of trouble and gloom” part that had tipped me off the evening before. Upon reading, a whole new message appeared

  1. Now let us rejoice in the day of salvation.

We should rejoice in this day? Today when things seem dark and dreary?  Today when we are on the cusp of welcoming the Savior? Yes! Feel joy! Feel the dream!

No longer as strangers on earth need we roam.

Isn’t it interesting how when you travel and meet other people at mentor trainings, seminars, TEDx events, or even on Facebook, how small your world becomes? Making friends with people from other religions or nationalities helps us no longer feel like strangers to the beautiful people who live throughout the world.

I wrote a letter to my family about this experience. My nephew replied with his great insights. He wrote, “When I think of the part ‘No longer as strangers on earth need we roam,’ I think of how we are strangers to this telestial existence; what we are not strangers to is the company of the Father and Son. We will not abide Their presence until the earth and we are ‘changed;’ remember that Father and Christ could visit the earth in its paradisiacal glory, but was limited to the Son after the Fall (their feet did not touch the ground). When the earth ‘appears as the Garden of Eden’ we will no longer be ‘strangers,’ we will be home!’”

Good tidings are sounding to us and each nation,

The gospel is spreading all over the world. Not only the gospel but even the message of the power of good thoughts and other universal laws.

And shortly the hour of redemption will come,

The hour is short and He is coming is soon.


When all that was promised the Saints will be given,

Isn’t this a great thought?!  The promises and blessings that have been foretold of by prophets will come to fruition.

And none will molest them from morn until ev’n,

Can you imagine a time without “Mormon bashing?” There will be no more abuse of any kind. No more trouble in the world.
And earth will appear as the Garden of Eden,

What a beautiful thought and visual.

And Jesus will say to all Israel, “Come home.”

To think of the Savior beckoning us home to Him sounds like a tender mother telling her children, “Come home. There is love and safety here.”

  1. We’ll love one another and never dissemble

We’ll stay together and be cohesive in thought and deed.

But cease to do evil and ever be one.

Wow! No evil? We are one?!  One in love.  One in thought.  One in purpose.

And when the ungodly are fearing and tremble,

If I am not fearing and preparing for His coming right now, then I willbe among those who will not fear and tremble when He does come.

 We’ll watch for the day when the Savior will come,

I am already watching for Him! This is the dream.

  1. In faith we’ll rely on the arm of Jehovah

Here is the answer I had first found the night before. We’ll rely on Him with all our faith to guide us through these last days. We can look forward to His coming—see the dream, believe it will happen, then feel the joy as it comes.


The song then goes back to the part above where I “heard” this verse. What gratitude I feel for the powerful witness of what I was told. The answer to mastering the last days: rely on Him and feel the joy of being with Him. This was a powerful personal experience for me in deep understanding of the power of this law.

Now, let us rejoice!

Ylang Ylang Essential Oil


“Today I am excited to talk about one of my favorite doTERRA essential oils—Ylang Ylang! For me, the unique, sweet, and uplifting scent of Ylang Ylang essential oil makes it a must-have in my essential oil collection. I often use Ylang Ylang in my diffuser blends because it has a rich, versatile fragrance that seems to improve any blend. Ylang Ylang oil is also known to promote healthy skin and hair, so I often add a few drops into my moisturizer or shampoo for added benefits. Some may think that floral essential oils are only useful for their nice smell, however, Ylang Ylang essential oil has so many uses and benefits that you probably haven’t thought of! You can learn about the many benefits of Ylang Ylang oil with this Essential Oil Spotlight blog post on the doTERRA product blog:

Not only will this post give you tons of ideas about how to use Ylang Ylang oil, but you can also learn all about how doTERRA sources Ylang Ylang from Madagascar through one of their Co-Impact Sourcing projects. If you haven’t used Ylang Ylang yet, read through this post for all the information you need about this amazing essential oil.”

Fermented Veggies

Basic Sauerkraut

  • 2 lbs shredded cabbage
  • 1 T Sea Salt

Basic Kimchi

  • 2 heads Napa Cabbage, chopped
  • 1-4 inches fresh ginger root, peeled
  • Sirachi hot sauce to desired heat

Veggie Mix

  • Cabbage
  • Carrots
  • Zucchini
  • Garlic
  • Turnip
  • Broccoli
  • Celery
  • (any veggies you like, just shred)

Fermenting experiment and Free videos on how to make fermented veggies from Nourishing Treasures

Fermenting Supplies
1 Liter-

1 liter jar 12 pack-


1 liter 6 pack-

1 liter Boss pickler-

1 liter primal pickler-

1.5 liter primal pickler-

2 liter (half gallon)-

Case of 6 2 liter–

2 liter primal pickler-

3 liter-

4 liter (gallon)-

4 liter case of 6-

Caps and ferment lids-

Glass weights-

8 wide mouth lids with fermentation tubes and stoppers-

Plastic caps with silicone seals 4 pack-

Plastic caps 16 wide mouth-

Plastic Caps 8 regular and 8 wide mouth-

Chalk tops 8 pk wide mouth—would be good for water kefir-

Cooking God’s Way Fermentation pack-
Cooking God\'s Way Air-lock System is Economical, Practical, Easy to Use, Healthy!

Fermenting Book-
lacto-fermenting can be easy with Cooking God\'s Way

Water & Milk Kefir

Milk and Water Kefir are great ways to build your probiotics in your gut and make some great homemade items at home.

Here is my Water Kefir Recipe

For Milk Kefir:

Put 3 Cups whole milk in quart jar and add 1 Tablespoon of “grains.”  Let sit on counter or shelf for 24 hours.  The curds will separate from the whey.  After 24 hours, pour contents of bottle into mesh strainer and gently move spoon back and forth across strainer being careful to not smash grains.  Milk kefir will drop into container/bowl.   Place grains in next quart jar of milk, repeating the process.  With the kefir in the bowl/container, stir to mix curds and whey. Pour milk kefir into quart jar.  Put the lid and ring on with the lid upside down so it does not seal tightly, and place in fridge for use.

Tip* When washing jars, just use water or use white vinegar and/or peroxide to clean with so the soap does not leave chemicals and bacteria in jar that will kill the grains.

Natural Yeast Breads

Natural Yeast Belgium Waffles

  • 1 C Starter
  • 1 Egg
  • 1 T Sweetener  (maple syrup, molasses, honey, or organic cane sugar
  • 1 T Oil  (I use coconut oil)
  • ¼ t Salt
  • ¼ t Baking Soda dissolved in
  • 2 T Milk or water or almond milk
  • 1 t Vanilla
  • ½ t Cinnamon (can add more if you like)
  • Place all ingredients in vitamix and blend on low

Natural Yeast Recipes



Going Asian at Wendy’s

Mr Perfect and I were headed to Salt Lake City this last weekend for a Leadership Convention.  We made a pit stop in Beaver on the way up and decided to run into Wendy’s to grab a bite to eat since it was near dinner time.

I was pondering the menu since I am on the “no more sugar, no more white flour, no more happiness candida cleanse” when Mr. Perfect asked me what I thought was on the new Asia GO Sandwich.  Curious as to what new Asian item was on the menu that I overlooked, I quickly scanned the board trying to find what he was looking at.  Then I saw this:



I’m still laughing over this.  Asiago pronounced ah-see-ah-go, as in CHEESE.   Or Asia Go…. whatever you prefer.  He would have bought it but “I couldn’t pronounce it.”

There are no words.  Keepin’ real over here.

Mary Did You Know

My missionary son just melts my heart.  Since the first time I heard him sing this song, it has become one of my very favorites.  He sings it with feeling and love for the Savior.  You can feel it.


This last weekend, he was part of the Palm Desert Stake Christmas Program that was performed on Saturday and Sunday.  You can read his letter HERE telling about the experience.


I hope you all enjoy this wonderful taste of Christmas that had this Mama in tears. =)  Soon I’ll have the professional copy, but this was all I needed to have my heart full!  (The lady apologized for her niece that wanted to hold her phone.)